1. Reaction to kindness, or Benjamin Franklin effect
History tells us that Benjamin Franklinwanted to befriend a person who did not really like him. This person was looking for a rare book, which Franklin had. When Benjamin learned about this, he let this person to borrow this rare book, and when the book was returned to the owner, Benjamin simply thanked him. As a result,they became best friends.
As Franklin used to say: “Those for whom you’ve done good once, will be ready to respond with much more good than you offered”…
2. Try asking for more than you actually need to get.
This idea is very simple and is akin to trading on the market. This will never fail to work foryou. You have to augment your needs if you are of interest to someone. First,
you will most likely get refused. Do not give up, and give it some
time. In 95% of cases, the person who are interested in you will eventually
respond and offer a little less than you originally asked for, but it
is guaranteed to be higher than you initially wanted to receive.
3. Conditioned desire to help
This idea is very similar to the previous one. In order to make someone to have an authentic and willful desire to help you, ask them once to do something for you that they may not be capable of doing.Having been refused, you have created for yourself a person who will feel owing to you. Most
likely, they will feel like helping you other times because they will
have a guilty feeling of not being able to help in the first place.
4. Always flatter
Flattering is ubiquitous. For starters, learn to understand that flattery should look natural, otherwise it may bring more negative outcomes than positive.
If you try to play along to someone who has a high self-esteem, then you have better chances in succeeding. People of this type love themselves and love flattery,
and they do not seem to notice it. But those who have low self-esteem,
may see trickery and deceit when you try to make them feel better.
5. Mirror
When you want to be liked by someone, try to mimic them.
Individuals possessing these traits are always treated by society as
chameleons, when it is noticeable how they constantly change and adjust
to each new individual they meet. However, this skill can be a useful tool to attract the right people who are of interest to you.
This principle is very common among comedians and masters of parody. All
of the celebrities who have been parodied on TV screens are often good
friends to these actors and comedians.
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